How to release what no longer serves you
How to release what no longer serves you in 4 simple steps:
▪️ Think of your many lives - Most of us live at least four lives in a lifetime: childhood, adolescence/early adulthood, “settled” adulthood, aging-death. But there are many points of change, and each of these can lead you into a new life. What are your points of change? How have they led you to a new/distinct life?
▫️ Write letters to the significant people in your past. Maybe you need to explain yourself or forgive someone or say thanks. You can do this by thinking of the 1-3 most significant people from each stage of life.
Write a letter to each one. You’ll start with an idea of what you want to say; don’t hold back. Be honest, be real. You may find all sorts of stuff you didn’t know you wanted to say. Say it.
Now read the letter over. Will you send it? Maybe. That’s up to you. Maybe you need to say it and release it.
▪️ Take inventory.
Make a list of any one of these categories:
- physical possessions
- beliefs
- values
- obligations
- habits
- hobbies
- goals
- relationships
- connections
- commitments
- goals
Then pretend you have to eliminate 30% of the list. Go with your gut. Make quick decisions. Mark them off. Now, maybe follow through in real life: let some relationships drop, throw some habits out, give away some possessions, get rid of some goals, end some commitments.
▫️ Get the weeds out of your garden.
Life is a garden. You plant the seeds and you nurture the plants and you reap the harvest. A weed is any plant growing where you don’t want it. A weed is any plant producing a harvest you don’t like.
“But it’s producing a crop!”
That means it has worth, right?
Well, yeah, okay, but if it’s not the crop you want, it’s a weed. Other people might value this fruit, but if you don’t, it’s worthless to you. And it’s taking up space in your garden and energy from your soul. What are you planting? What are you growing? Decide if it has a place in your garden. Other people valuing a particular crop does not mean you have to value it.
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My name is Michelle Shlafman, and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC). If you are in the state of Georgia (USA), I’m currently accepting clients & would be honored to support you if we are a good fit for one another.